Working Past Possible Self Sabotage
What's happening and how to think and question yourself to move forward
There is a fine line between the wisdom of patience and the error of procrastination.
It’s possible that patience or indifference can really be something different than we assume, resulting in self sabotage, that hurts us and quite possibly, those around us.
Procrastination that is self sabotage or becomes that, is rooted in emotions, feelings and beliefs that doing nothing or better said, not doing what life calls for at the time, is safe. That may be true emotionally, at least for now, yet it may not prove itself true down the road.
We may instead, regrettably and painfully, find out that what we thought was smart or necessary avoidance (and I’ve done it too) was instead, procrastination and foolish.
This article isn’t to shame or make anyone feel poorly. I’ve made the bad decision of procrastination in important matters that I’m writing about today.
The purpose is to realize what feels “right” or “safe” now may be a mirage, a deception and not as intelligent or secure as we assume, and costly in some manner, down the road.
Our future self may not thank us.
It might roughly say to us, “why did you do this to me?”
So what is a better response to those emotions, feelings, conclusions and decisions that put our future selves at risk and potentially, great risk of harm?
Conducting forward thinking in a rational manner isn’t always easy yet it is extremely helpful. Understanding that discomfort and fear are not our friends in most cases is helpful when thinking into the future and the costs we may be forced to pay and the pain and suffering that could accompany them.
Forward thinking can be positively framed too, as in “what my life can look like, be like and feel like if I make the hard, very uncomfortable, smart decision—good choice now.”
Think of or create other attractive reasons for making those important, helpful decisions. Then ask and determine “how can I make this decision (or these decisions) a little easier for me emotionally, psychologically, socially or financially?”
The more intensely positive, reasonable, credible and trusting you feel about those reasons, the more likely you are to move in the right direction for your future self.
This is creating a catalyst for the actions that will protect you and serve you well.
In doing so, we will also be choosing not to self sabotage.
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