Trust/distrust and like/dislike feel like they should be separate things, but once distrust sets in, it seems to turn into an emotional filter pretty easily.
Just as trust can work as a filter that makes someone's actions easier to read generously, distrust can work as a filter of dislike — and once it does, it's not only the person's words and actions that fall under it, but even the brand of clothes they wear, or the things they like. The dislike bleeds into places that aren't really about the person.
Once judgment and feeling get fused together, maybe it just becomes hard to pull them apart again.
Trust/distrust and like/dislike feel like they should be separate things, but once distrust sets in, it seems to turn into an emotional filter pretty easily.
Just as trust can work as a filter that makes someone's actions easier to read generously, distrust can work as a filter of dislike — and once it does, it's not only the person's words and actions that fall under it, but even the brand of clothes they wear, or the things they like. The dislike bleeds into places that aren't really about the person.
Once judgment and feeling get fused together, maybe it just becomes hard to pull them apart again.
This really reached out and grabbed me for how vividly you explained it:
“Once judgment and feeling get fused together, maybe it just becomes hard to pull them apart again.”
I think there is truth to it. :)